THE JOURNEY : MARY OLIVER

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do–
determined to save
the only life you could save.
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The Architecture of Happiness : Home

In life, a person will come and go from many homes. We may leave a house, a town, a room, but that does not mean those places leave us. Once entered, we never entirely depart the homes we make for ourselves in the world. They follow us, like shadows, until we come upon them again, waiting for us in the mist. We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability. We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.

Sometimes you sit and wonder ‘ Was it the right decision ‘ and then you can’t explain your mind whether it was one or not. Living in a different country doesn’t mean you are far away from home but you are here to make something better for yourself. That’s all about life and which people don’t understand ‘The real world is the one within the walls of homes; the outside world, of careers and politics and money and fame, that was the fake world, where nothing lasted, and things were real only to the extent they harmed or helped people inside their homes’. So its just a boulevard of your dreams that you are carrying and once the goal is achieved you return where you belong to. So it’s never about being homesick or being far away from home. It’s just about a step you make towards your goal which makes the distance short for home.

We comfort ourselves by reliving memories of protection. Something closed must retain our memories, while leaving them their original value as images. Memories of the outside world will never have the same tonality as those of home and, by recalling these memories, we add to our store of dreams; we are never real historians, but always near poets, and our emotion is perhaps nothing but an expression of a poetry that was lost.

“Home is where the heart is.”

 

Escapism : Engaging in One’s Fantasy

Humans had built a world inside the world, which reflected it in pretty much the same way as a drop of water reflected the landscape. Inside this little world they had taken pains to put all the things you might think they would want to escape from — hatred, fear, tyranny, and so forth. They thought they wanted to be taken out of themselves, and every art humans dreamt up took them further in.

Many have given up. They stay home and watch the TV screen, living on the earnings of their parents, cousins, bothers, or uncles, and only leave the house to go to the movies or to the nearest bar. “How’re you making it?” on may ask, running into them along the block, or in the bar. “Oh, I’m TV-ing it”; with the saddest, sweetest, most shamefaced of smiles, and from a great distance. This distance one is compelled to respect; anyone who has traveled so far will not easily be dragged again into the world. There are further retreats, of course, than the TV screen or the bar. There are those who are simply sitting on their stoops, “stoned,” animated for a moment only, and hideously, by the approach of someone who may lend them the money for a “fix.” Or by the approach of someone from whom they can purchase it, one of the shrewd ones, on the way to prison or just coming out.

Closing your eyes isn’t going to change anything. Nothing’s going to disappear just because you can’t see what’s going on. In fact, things will even be worse the next time you open your eyes. That’s the kind of world we live in.Fiction can show you a different world. It can take you somewhere you’ve never been. Once you’ve visited other worlds, like those who ate fairy fruit, you can never be entirely content with the world that you grew up in.
To give fiction a meaning,it means to play a game by which we give sense to the immensity of things that happened, are happening, or will happen in the actual world.

To conclude,Paradise was always over there, a day’s sail away. But it’s a funny thing, escapism. You can go far and wide and you can keep moving on and on through places and years, but you never escape your own life. I, finally, knew where my life belonged.Find where you belong,give yourself an identity. An Identity you want to be. Don’t rush,don’t escape.

 

One’s Authenticity : A Creative Process

Everyone of us is shadowed by an illusory person: a false self..We are not very good at recognizing illusions, least of all the ones we cherish about ourselves. Contemplation is not and cannot be a function of this external self. There is an irreducible opposition between the deep transcendent self that awakens only in contemplation, and the superficial, external self which we commonly identify with the first person singular.Our reality, our true self, is hidden in what appears to us to be nothingness….We can rise above this unreality and recover our hidden reality. God Himself begins to live in me not only as my Creator but as my other and true self.

We have the choice of two identities: the external mask which seems to be real…and the hidden, inner person who seems to us to be nothing, but who can give himself eternally to the truth in whom he subsists.Learn to be natural,try to listen what comes from inside and be your natural best,your most intelligent self.It is when you realize who you are and the extents of the good and the evils which you are capable of. We can’t turn our true selves off and on situational and expect them to carry and sustain us. Rationing creativity results in bipolar-ism of the spirit. Our creativity is also our life force. When we turn it off and on like a spigot, we start to become less and less able to control the valve.

Everyone wants to be loved for who they are, even if we keep our true selves locked up and hidden. It’s a nice little fantasy to believe that the right person holds the key and all the things you do not say are just somehow, magically, known. That’s the downside of growing up. There’s a lot of pretending involved. We frequently act like someone other than who we really are because we don’t know or aren’t comfortable with our true selves.

You need not reach any place, you have to just delve deep in yourself to find the true self and be a Soul Searcher. Search for the truth inside you,there lies your ability. With an example I would like to conclude, Birds feed; then they nest. Paint them any color you want, send them halfway around the world, but they’ll always find a way back. And eventually they’ll show their true colors again.Your journey through life and self-discovery is much like the start of a new day. As you grow, develop, and reinvent yourself, the tendrils of light tear through the darkness of your untapped potential and uncharted territory. As you learn more, discover your life’s purpose, and establish a vision for your future, the light shines through on your true self.

One’s Instinct : The Mysterious Affair

INSTINCTS, there will be a few times in your life when you allow your Instincts to tell you something or do something that is logical,sometimes that Instinct might upset your plan or that may seem crazy to others,but that is the way it is supposed to be carried forward. Isn’t it? When that happens,just do it.There is no reason for you to stop because sometimes you just need to trust those instincts and go with the flow. Just simply listen to it.

Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it. It’s all about keeping faith in your instincts,let us put it this way A star falls from the sky and into your hands. Then it seeps through your veins and swims inside your blood and becomes every part of you. And then you have to put it back into the sky. And it’s the most painful thing you’ll ever have to do and that you’ve ever done. But what’s yours is yours. Whether it’s up in the sky or here in your hands. And one day, it’ll fall from the sky and hit you in the head real hard and that time, you won’t have to put it back in the sky again. So basically,the whole concept of instincts is that allow yourself to perform whatever you want to freely.Trust that Instinct inside you.Whatever you get from it or whatever you lose from it comes later !

There should be a light in your heart,that allows you to have a sense of freedom.Whatever the world thinks about your actions,is their cup of tea.It’s better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody’s else life with perfection ( and the same verse is written in ” The Bhagavad Gita ” ) Trust yourself,your instincts and just pass through every phase with a sense of accomplishment.The material world is simply an expression of the mind; that’s what so many fail to see. We’re so dependent on what is before us that we discount our intuition. Yet if one dismisses instinct, how can one understand or believe in a world that exists beyond one’s sight?

So to conclude,A great philosopher once said ” Empires fall, ids explode, great symphonies are written, and behind all of it is a single instinct that demands satisfaction.” The satisfaction that yes,I listened to my instinct,I performed whatever I had to without looking for someone else out there to tell me about my actions because Instinct is a marvelous thing. It can neither be explained nor ignored.

 

Two Basic Motivators of Life : Fear and Love

Now when we talk about life,there are a lot of things which come to one’s mind. One might think about the hard times they have went through,and the other might think about the happy times which made their life more exciting and thrilling. Now all through these life situations and tasks,we must consider that if there is a let down something might exist to pull us up. The two basic motivators of life : Fear and Love.

One doesn’t allow us to speak up and the other allows us to expose ourselves to the world and gives us the ability to perform every task with a positive aspect.When we are afraid we pull back from life and when we are in love we open to all that life has to offer with passion,excitement and acceptance. So basically loving yourself and not accepting yourself is the basic root cause of fear.We need to learn to love ourselves first,in all our glory and imperfections. One wrong thing doesn’t mean that things will go wrong in life,but it’s just a basic experience that allows you to grow and so that you can perform better the next time.Always remember,if we cannot love ourselves,we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.

To create doesn’t mean to create something out of the box,but just allowing yourself to flow with the rhythm of passion and creating something out of yourself which you never knew that yes, it exists inside me.Respect the strength inside you,but never the power. Strength will give justice to you,power will over-rule you.Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
If your life is going to mean anything,you have to create it yourself by allowing your fear to work as a “motivator” and then simply living by it.

To conclude, A philosopher once said ” A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. “Allow yourself to do mistakes,let the fear arise and the overcome it by performing it in a better way,which allows you to develop an art of lovingly doing everything whether its for a purpose or without it.Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach.Step ahead !

Self Acceptance : Radical and Unconditional

Some people walk through a halfway with covered mirrors the other halfway is lined with mirrors but with covered blankets. Confused? Well,it means that some people go through life believing in an image of themselves that isn’t real,and an image of themselves standing in the world and relative to the world,that isn’t real.People tend to do so because they might consider themselves more superior or they just want to show the world that they are nowhere behind.

If you happen to be in that halfway and pull the blankets of the mirrors,they are going to think that you are hurting them but that is not true,they are just actually looking at their reflection for the first time. Surprised? but that is true,when something inside you is always hidden and is never actually shown to someone else then what will the soul do?
Won’t it be like something that never actually existed or the soul just refuses to accept itself? Well,sometimes the most horrendous thing a person can see is all the hidden things inside them. These hidden things just don’t only restrict you to grow but they don’t even allow you to survive. It’s like a person is lost in a boulevard from which he is not most likely to come out.

The things you have covered or you think not to look at are things which make you special and different from everyone,so don’t be the person who is afraid to look at things,people ignore to make decisions from their own point of view because they are afraid of the world and their point of view. Just learn to step out and believe in yourself,because it’s only you who can take out that person who is lost within. So take out those things and learn to have a freedom of speaking things and learn to free yourself from the thought of being judgmental towards you,its just you and it will always be about you. Self acceptance is the most important thing in one’s life.

The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell that we don’t have a different outlook towards life. So just step out of that mirror throw away those blankets learn to analyse yourself and just speak,portray yourself in whatever best way you can,because that is you and believe me in NOBODY can be you.

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

Your Reality doesn’t mean : Escapism

REALITY afraid of this word? Well,reality is which when you stop believing in it,doesn’t go away. People are afraid of themselves,of their own identity and most importantly of their feelings. Yes,feelings are something which expose you to the world differently.People talk about how great love is,but isn’t that bullshit? There is no second thought to the phrase that ” Love brings out those hidden feelings,which you want to hide ” but to consider it the greatest existence of all is too much of one’s faith towards it.

Love hurts.Feelings are disturbing.People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous.How can they deal with love when they are afraid to feel ? Pain is meant to wake us up,to give us a better understanding which allows you to grow and have a deeper meaning in understanding the basic roots of life. People try to hide their pain.But they are wrong.Pain is something to carry just like one carry’s radio to listen to music and be distracted from the daily experiences. You feel strength in the experience of pain.It’s all in how you carry it.You can be that person in the room who is growing from the experiences of daily routine and at the same time you can be that person who just wants to hide from the world.It depends on you whether you want to be the wiser one or the one who just fails to learn because you just want to FAIL to understand yourself.That’s what matters.Pain is a feeling it is a part of you. Your feelings are a part of you,they are your own reality.

If you feel ashamed of them or you are stopping yourself to grow because you don’t want to expose your feelings then you are just letting society destroy your reality.You should stand up for your right to feel your pain and allow yourself to come out of your comfort zone,because the society is too mean to take you out from your own den and expose every little thing about you. One should always remember that there is only one person in this world who can stand for Oneself and that is your own soul. You hide,your reality fails your existence fails.

It’s time to put an end on this.Learn to stand up and give yourself a word that nothing and nobody can destroy you,you are not afraid of anything. No judgement’s and no actions of others can stop you to reveal the best and purest form of you.You are here today because of a purpose that will allow you to match footprints with the world.Step out and grow because nothing ever becomes real “till it is experienced”.

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance,because you are beautiful.

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